Coffee, hustle, wine repeat….one of my favorite shirts says this, and isn’t it the truth?! We all get through our days in our own way. Moms, Dads, and caregivers all have a big job to do. But lets face it, mamas are exhausted. Our job is 24 hours, 7 days a week. No scheduled breaks, no actual “vacation” days. We are working, and on call, every moment of every day. We are tired and blessed beyond words 😉
When I was younger I never would have thought a cup of coffee would mean so much to me. Oh, how I love my coffee (sigh). Some moms are killin’ it with eating right, gym time, homeschool, and schedules. I’m over here like “Coffee ’til Wine Time Y’all”. That’s right….I’m that mom. Moms need little things to look forward to throughout the day. That’s really how we do it.
Some of us go to work all day and then come home to our family, dishes that still need to be done, supper to be made, and soccer games to go to. Then there’s those of us who’s job is to stay home with our children. We listen to toddlers laugh and we listen to them cry. We have no privacy while going to the bathroom or doing anything for that matter. We care for little beings all day long and into the night. Currently, many of us are tackling working from home while trying to homeschool and be a daycare provider. We all need little things to look forward to throughout the day. It’s absolutely necessary!
I look forward to coffee in the morning (and as an afternoon pick me up 😉 ). I love the smell of it, love that first sip, second sip, love it all! I truly enjoy holding a warm, frothy mug of coffee. I put the perfect amount of creamer in it and just enjoy the “Cozy”. Yes, I talk about it as if it’s one of my most treasured belongings. That’s because it is…..simple bliss in this crazy world. When you are a true lover of lattes, the sign for a coffee house will genuinely excite you. You have coffee decor all over your home (signs that say “But first, Coffee”). Your best girlfriends give you fancy organic coffees, Starbucks gift cards, and adorable mugs that say “Good morning, Beautiful”, for your birthday. Because they know you and they are women, too. They love their coffee just as much as you 🙂
Now, our wonderful men play many roles and many of them are quite stressful, too. I for one, am so very thankful for my husband and all he does for our family. He’s also so good to me and knows when I need a little “me time”. I pray that every single one of you has someone who shows you how important you are to them! That being said, I am talking about the women right now. I’m sure most of you can agree that being a mom is one of the most magical, worthwhile, and rewarding experiences we can have. We don’t all have the opportunity to become a mom….those of us who do, are wonderfully blessed. I’ve realized over the years that it is okay to know that I am blessed but feel absolutely crazy and exhausted at the same time.
Every family has their dynamic. Ours happens to be two school age kids going through puberty and adolescence, along with two toddlers who are being potty trained and love to test their limits. This makes for an interesting day, every day. My day consists of hugging my husband before he goes to work, after he’s just told our little ones to be good for Mommy. After Daddy walks out the door, our 2 year old decides it’s time to open the freezer door to find treats while our 4 year old begs to go play outside. He plays a “fun” little game where he continues to ask and ask and ask until we actually go outside. So after making sure my older boys catch their rides to school (and sign their papers they were supposed to give me the night before), I begin my day with my toddlers. This consists of story time, dance parties, outdoor play, lots of snacks, face time with friends, and the two of them arguing and having to make up. By the end of the day I have created with play dough, made sandcastles in the sandbox, continuously cleaned up messes, and held conversations with toddlers and no adults. Then at the supper (dinner) table I end up saying things I never imagined I would say. “We do not stand on our chairs while we are eating”, “No more talk of butts and farts at the table”, “I hope you do not eat that way when you go over to a friends house”, and “Yes, it is normal to grow hair there”.
By the end of the night, I look forward to sitting down and relaxing with a glass of wine. I never really appreciated a good glass of wine until I hit my thirties. People joke all the time about how much women love their wine, and why do we? Because all day we spend our time playing various different roles, and by evening we just want to feel like us. We love that we are wives and mamas, that we are the ones who encourage and protect. We thank God every day for our husbands and children. But at the end of the night we want to be even more than a wife and a mother. We want to feel sexy and beautiful, we want to wear clothes that don’t have chalky handprints or spaghetti sauce on them. We want to have great conversation with our handsome husband or best girlfriend.
So grab that glass of wine and celebrate a crazy, successful day. Sit in front of the fire or watch your favorite show with your husband. Enjoy it while you read or soak in a bath. Face time with your best friend (you can still enjoy a glass of wine together while social distancing 🙂 ). Simple pleasures are necessary in this busy, blessed life of ours. Coffee and wine may not be your thing….maybe it’s tea or a cold beer. Maybe it’s just going for a walk or practicing yoga. Find little things to look forward to every day, you deserve it more than you think!
~Spread kindness, only Kindness~