I hope this post finds you all healthy and well! It is my 39th birthday today and I find myself feeling thankful that God has given me another day and another year to celebrate. I’ve also been thinking about how many changes have taken place in the last couple of years.
Two years ago my husband was given the opportunity to transfer to another state, to stay within his company. After many long conversations (some involved me crying) we decided it was in our best interest to make the move. The hardest part for me was having to tell our two oldest boys that we were uprooting them from all they’d known…that their school, friends, and family were going to be 1,200 miles away. My husband needed to start work immediately, so we took 2 days, looked at 9 homes, and put in our offer. Our boys still had 6 weeks left of their school year and we didn’t want them to miss it. So my husband worked in NC and flew home on the weekends to try and make it to their soccer games. Meanwhile, I was having to get the kids ready to leave a couple times a day, so the realtor could show our home. We lived there seven years, and I watched my husband make so many changes to make it ours. The treehouse he built with our boys, the flowers he planted me for Mother’s Day, the painted mural on our youngest son’s wall, the tree in the back yard where he carved our initials. We loved our neighbors, friends, and community. Deep down I knew we made the right decision, but it wasn’t any easier to know strangers were walking through our home in hopes of buying it.
Those six weeks before moving were quite an emotional roller coaster. I was taking care of our four kiddos while my husband worked all week in NC. I was leaving the house for showings and answering the pleading question, “Mom, do we really have to move?” It all happened so fast. There were friends/family who didn’t understand why we made the decision we did. There were so many tears…knowing we caused them was tough to take. It was emotionally confusing, but I knew our family would get through it (just as we always did).
Two years later, I still sometimes question whether or not we made the right decision. Truth is I miss knowing our family is near by, I miss playdates with long time friends, and seeing my kids bond with their grandparents. It can feel confusing at times. But, I love that we are showing our kids that it is ok to step outside your comfort zone…in fact, it can be quite rewarding. We’ve shown them, that with effort, you can keep old friends and still make new friends wherever life takes you. It took everyone a while for our new reality to sink in, but thankfully our family has been incredibly supportive. My husband always tells our kids “Make someone smile and affect people in a positive way.” We’re doing our best to accomplish that!
I tend to worry way too much about the what ifs and what the future holds. Our world’s current situation (with the Coronavirus Pandemic) has made me realize that the what ifs aren’t important, it’s what is happening right now that’s important. I know that I am blessed to have a home, enough food and toilet paper, and the ability to do what’s best to keep my family safe and healthy.
I hope at least one of you can relate to this. If you have moved or are getting ready to…just know the transition will have ups and downs, but if you remain a strong family unit, you will most definitely get through it together! Life is about taking chances, bettering yourself, and loving with all you’ve got!
~Remember to always spread Kindness, only Kindness!